Thursday, January 6, 2011
Thoughts...
Lately I've been thinking.
(Scary right?)
I read something on a blog this morning that mirrored some of my own jumbled-up thoughts of late, and put into words what I've been thinking/feeling/struggling with....
HOW do I balance all of my passions/interests?
And...
HOW do I stop overcommitting, saying YES all of the time, stretching myself so thin, etc........even to/with things that can pretty much ALL be considered "good"??
Song lyrics have been running through my head lately...."everything to everybody"....and I CAN'T be "everything" to "everyone" that I feel like I "need" to be.
Truth is, I probably don't NEED to be.
And, isn't it pretty narcissistic of me to even CONSIDER that I should try?
Balance in 2011....that's the name of the game.
How will I get there?
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Funny, been thinking the same thing myself lately. And to think, I thought I was overcommitted before I had a child. Actually, having a kid put alot of that in perspective. I used to want increasing responsbility and management at work, and now I'm grateful for a job that lets me leave at 5 and forget about it when I get home. I wanted to volunteer for every cause that asked, now I choose the ones that cost me the least amount of grief to fulfill. I used to workout for at least 2 hours a day, now I wake up at 4 a.m. to go to the gym for an hour so I don't take any of that time away from "Ely time". I don't know that I have any advice for you, if only to remember that now is the time you should be pursuing passions, trying on what fits, and embarking on exciting new opportunities. Because when you do decide that you want children - trust me - it will all change! Might as well live it up now!
As my favorite Stooge said,"Sabotogee ..eh !"
From your point of view: If you do what you need to do, you become what you don't want to be: Narcissistic.
Yet,nothing will be further from that, but your fear prevents you from creating the future that you want.
One of the reasons everyone comes to you is that they know you'll say, 'yes'. When they realize you will say ,'yes' to only what's worthwhile they will only come to you with what's important.
You don't have to say,'no' a lot. I can relate to your experience because I'm the 'go to' person among my friends and in my Company. All it took was saying ,'no' a little bit of the time and things began to change.
You just have to do it and the next morning you'll wake up and nothing bad happened and you won't be a narcissist either.
Balance ? No such thing. The wave of life crests and falls, it's never balanced. Perfect balance, means perfect stillness, which is death :) .
As for me, I need to go tell someone something they really do not want to hear. It's really messin' with my Zen thing.
...Or, you can start calling this blog Rachel's Page of Balance and Non-Narcicism :)
I actually have one request: Stop beating up on yourself for a week. Then, try a month. Next time you start giving yourself "what for", go have a make-out session with Jeremy. You'll feel right as rain. So will he.
The truth is Rachel, you're just fine.
Thanks Emily and Romo :). You guys rock my world ;).
On a serious note: Emily, I really appreciate your perspective. I am storing up all of your advice...and I am sure I will definitely come to you for more once I do jump into the Mommy-world adventures!
Romo...you never fail to make me smile, make me stop and think about things more, and crack me up with your comments (sometimes all three reactions at once. Ha!). I still have no idea why you've taken an "interest" in my lame word vomit...but I appreciate your advice and candor. So, thanks :)
I don't use Facebook, yet I saw the first few words you had written and knew what had happened. Yet:
1. I have been so busy I didn't realize the Bears were in the playoffs. I say this as a heterosexual man with references.
2. Saw the game in a room full of cheddarheads and did just fine. I was welcomed because I arrived with several pounds of hot wings, burgers and beer from Schooners. Even more welcomed because I did not ask anyone to 'chip' in. Wisconsinites and the Scottish have a key trait in common.
3. I have the advantage of being a Cubs fan and know that regarding sports teams, the best is to simply give up all hope as early as possible. It's really for the best.
Be seeing you.
Romo, ha! Glad you enjoyed your football-watching afternoon ;). I was thoroughly entertained to watch/listen to my husband and his friends go nuts over the game :). I try to "like" football....but I really don't "care" enough...
The 4 guys present at our house were getting annoyed with me and my friend Jamie who kept commenting on the girlie things like opponents patting each other on the back and how "cute" and "touching" we found those things ;). Haha! Yeah....we weren't exactly all looking for the same kinds of things ;).
Anyway...."be seeing you"?? Where, pray tell??? ;)
Sorry, to confuse things. If you Google the phrase,"Be seeing you," it'll make sense. It's the first thing that comes up. it's just sort of a catch phrase, but not a catch phrase related to a television show. Didn't intend to be mysterious. Just a bit silly and overtired with a 7:35 AM jet to catch.
If I ever run into you I will say hello, even if I have to flap my arms and squawk like a chicken from a distance of one hundred meters. Which, in and of itself, would be a dead give-a-way.
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